Confessions of a (Former) Seeker Church Pastor
I was the Associate Pastor of a large, Lutheran, Seeker-driven congregation in the Phoenix area from 1984-March 2005. And I loved every minute of it! Every day was energized by the creative passion to find new ways to connect with… Read More
The New Utopia: A Genderless Society?
The Lincoln Public School system recently trained its teachers to create a gender-neutral, or gender-inclusive, environment in their classrooms (and don’t let the fact that FOX News broke the story take away from the fact that this is a real… Read More
The Myth of Male Privilege?
A friend sent me a link to a blog post, written by a mom about boys: 11 things Only Parents of Boys Understand. It’s well done, funny, and insightful. But in “thing #2” came that familiar storyline that we continue… Read More
Beer, the NFL, and Domestic Violence
OK…I’ll dive in and take the heat: Does anyone else find it a bit disingenuous that a beer company (one of the NFL’s biggest sponsors) said that they were not satisfied with the way the NFL was handling the domestic… Read More
The Imperative for Brain-Washing our Kids
I’ve been a pastor for over 30 years. For the last 9 years a part of my focus has been on the challenges boys face in the 21st Century, and the challenge churches face in keeping boys engaged. 70-90% of… Read More
Are Children’s/Youth Ministries the New Leper Colonies?
The little children were being brought to Jesus in order that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples spoke sternly to those who brought them…(Matthew 20:13) The disciples had a knack for protecting Jesus from those… Read More
Sunday Schooling Our Kids Out of Church
About 40 years ago a profound shift took place in many Christian congregations across the country…for all the right reasons…with one troubling unintended consequence: In the 1960’s and 1970’s, my generation, Baby Boomers, rebelled against the “institutional church” just as… Read More
It Takes a Man to Raise a Boy Into a Man
In the twenty-first century, the overwhelming majority of boys are being mentored primarily by women: moms and grandmas, female preschool teachers, female elementary teachers, female Sunday school teachers, and, more often than not, educational TV shows skewed to girls. A… Read More
The Hole in a Man’s Soul–The Father Wound
If you dig deep enough into the soul of a man who for some reason seems a bit lost in life, or maybe real lost, you’ll usually find a man who never received affirmation from his father. In groups, I… Read More
Real Boys Don’t “Fall in Love” with Jesus
Imagine dropping your son off at football practice and as he’s walking toward the field you yell out: Son, one of my hopes for you this season is that you fall in love with your coach! Or imagine saying to… Read More