2. He/She sees him/herself as either the VICTIM or the HERO in every situation (never the one at fault).
Another part of the mental coping mechanism for the cheater is to refuse to take responsibility for his/her actions. He/she will have a difficult time seeing it as “wrong.” To make this twisted view of reality work, he/she is forced to redefine reality where he/she is NEVER in the wrong about anything. When things are going well, he/she plays the hero. When things are going badly, he/she plays the victim. They refuse to see fault in themselves. They’re never the “bad guy” in the story even when confronted by the clear evidence of their sin.
#3 is probably the MOST common sign of adultery and/or dishonesty in marriage…
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