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If someone offered you a way to take your marriage to a new level in one week without having to spend a dime to make it happen, would you be willing to give it a shot? Literally, you’ve got nothing to lose! It obviously takes more than seven days to fully transform a marriage, but I’m convinced that it’s just enough time to completely change the course and climate of your relationship in a positive way. Here’s how…



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THE 7-DAY CHALLENGE (4 daily actions for 7 consecutive days):

If you’ll commit to do these four things every day for a week, you’ll have a completely new direction in your marriage by the week’s end. For ongoing marriage-building tools and tips, you can connect with me on twitter by clicking here and subscribe to our email list at the top of this page for a free marriage ebook download.

1. Make love everyday.

If this is the only thing you do, your marriage will still be stronger in a week. It takes more than sex to make a healthy marriage, but it’s impossible to have a healthy marriage without it. Sex is a powerful force that will help you reconnect on a physical, emotional and spiritual level.

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2. Pray together every night. 

This one might freak you out a little bit, but I’m convinced that prayer is one of the most intimate and important acts a couple can do together. Even if you’ve never done it before, pray together daily (out loud). Thank God for all the good in your life. Pour out your heart to your Creator in front of your spouse and you’ll connect with each other, and with God, on a new level.

3. Say nothing negative. 

For one solid week, you’re not allowed to say anything negative or demanding. If you don’t have something positive to say, don’t say it. Get out of the habit of negativity and nagging. When you slip up on this one, your spouse is allowed to call you out and you’ve got to immediately apologize and follow up with saying three kind things about your spouse. This might sound childish, but you’ll be amazed at how it can change the tone of your words and your relationship.

4. Spend one hour in conversation while all electronics are turned off.

We live in a world where it’s possible to be in the same room but in different worlds. You can’t have a meaningful conversation with your spouse while you’re texting with someone, watching TV, and working on your laptop. For at least one hour each night, after the kids are asleep, turn off the TV and all electronics and have conversation. Maybe you’ve forgotten how to do it, but you’ll pick it back up quickly. Talk about your day, your hopes, your dreams and anything else that comes to your mind. That seven hours of uninterrupted conversation over the course of the week will be fuel for your marriage!

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