There can be many factors (physical, hormonal, emotional, etc) that leads to a lack of “connection” in the bedroom (you can read the Top Ten causes of sexual frustration in marriage by clicking here). One of the most dangerous causes is secrecy. Anything you don’t communicate to your spouse (or your spouse doesn’t communicate to you) creates an invisible barrier inhibiting intimacy in your marriage.
Strive to have a “Naked Marriage” which means don’t just be physically naked; be emotionally and spiritually naked. Don’t keep secrets. Live with total transparency, vulnerability and honesty in your marriage. It might seem a little scary to be that “naked” but it’s the only way to experience real intimacy. Don’t settle for anything less! It won’t just improve your sex life; it will improve every other aspect of your marriage too.
7. Past hurts are causing hangups in the bedroom. Any suggestions?