Women typically require more time and more stimulation to reach an orgasm. This means the husband needs to slow down, give more attention to foreplay and/or other stimulation and make it a priority for both spouses to climax. This, like all parts of marriage, benefits from honest communication. Tell your spouse what you like. Tell him/her what feels good. Tell them if it’s too fast or too slow. Don’t expect your spouse to be a mindreader and don’t apologize for being wired up differently than he/she is. Talk about these things during sex, but also be intentional about talking through these issues when you’re not actually in the act of making love and communication is easier.
6. I feel like we’re not connecting inside or outside the bedroom, and I’m not sure why. Any suggestions?