MYTH #3: If you love someone, you should always support their decisions.
TRUTH: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend who corrects out of love and concern,
But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful because they serve a hidden agenda.” Proverbs 27:6
A true friend will tell you a difficult truth. Someone who has an agenda will tell you what you want to hear. I’ll never forget the story of my Aunt Jan decided to leave her husband after a year of marriage. She showed up on her mom’s doorstep with her suitcase and told her mom she was getting a divorce because she had married the wrong person and didn’t want to be with him anymore. Her mom lovingly told her to go home to her husband and that she wasn’t welcome in her home until she went home and worked on her marriage. Aunt Jan was shocked, but it was the wakeup call she needed. She went home to my Uncle John and they remained married and in love for fifty years until his death a couple years ago. Sometimes, real love requires us to speak difficult truth instead of just supporting someone’s bad choices.
#4 reveals why “telling it like it is” isn’t always the best approach...