How to Effectively Boost Your Son’s Back-to-School Confidence

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 8, 2017

I just dropped off my 14-year-old son for the start of new year, at a brand-new new school. I had a lump in my throat, knowing how nervous he was about this new season. Every year brings a new set…

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Two Practical Ways to Encourage Your Sons

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 21, 2017

Many boys these days go through challenging times that are not of their making, and yet they affect how our sons view themselves. Every day, boys experience challenges at school that make them feel stupid, especially since our sit-still-and-listen school…

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3 Things Every Boy Needs From His Mom

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 11, 2017

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down.…

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Why I’m Grateful for My Daughter’s First Car Accident

By Shaunti Feldhahn on July 29, 2016

This might sound odd, but I’m really, really grateful for my 16-year-old daughter’s car accident yesterday. Yes, you read that right. She got her license a few months ago, and is a careful, conscientious driver.  She’s uncomfortable going five miles…

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3 Things to Do When Your Kid Rolls Her Eyes at You

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 12, 2016

Not that this ever happens.  But every now and then our kids (girls and boys) might perhaps display a little attitude. Perhaps it’s an eye roll, a derisive tone, a sudden disrespectful temper.  Whatever it is, it’s almost guaranteed to…

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Two great ways to boost your son’s self-esteem

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 3, 2016

Many boys these days go through challenging times that are not of their making, and yet they affect how our sons view themselves. Every day, boys experience challenges at school that make them feel stupid, especially since our sit-still-and-listen school…

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3 Lies You Can’t Let Your Son Believe About Himself

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 15, 2016

As both a social researcher who has interviewed and surveyed thousands of boys and a mom of a son, I’ve seen three common – and very harmful –things boys tend to believe about themselves.   Mom and Dad, keep an eye…

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Dads: Four Phrases a Daughter Needs to Hear From You

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 12, 2016

Dads, we know you love your daughter.  And you know you love your daughter.  But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it.  In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that…

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Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 7, 2016

Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with…

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Play It Subtle When Talking With Teens

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 8, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

I was driving my 16-year-old daughter home from volleyball practice recently when she brought up a funny comment made by one of the guys she knows at school. Then she said, “Anna said he told her he was going to ask me to Homecoming.” I was thrilled she was sharing something like that, since she’s been pretty tight-lipped the last year. And also thrilled for her, since she’s never been asked to a school dance before, and I know it would mean a lot to her. So I smiled at her and said “Wow, that is fantastic, honey!” I promise that’s all I said. But you would have thought I had shot off fireworks or something, because my daughter got this horrified look on her face and said, “I knew you’d freak out if I told you. That’s why I don’t tell you anything!” But I did not overreact, and I’m a little irritated that she says this is why she can’t talk to me. What do I do?

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