What Men Need Most From the Woman They Love

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 4, 2016

While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure us of his love, men are not affected by hearing us say, “Honey, I respect you” but they do love to hear things like “I’m…

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3 things to do when your kid rolls her eyes at you

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 12, 2016

Not that this ever happens.  But every now and then our kids (girls and boys) might perhaps display a little attitude. Perhaps it’s an eye roll, a derisive tone, a sudden disrespectful temper.  Whatever it is, it’s almost guaranteed to…

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I trusted him and he disappointed me

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 29, 2015

Dear Shaunti, You and a lot of others talk about how much men need to feel respected and trusted.  So I trusted him.  And it blew up in my face.  My husband, Hank, and I own a travel business.  I…

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How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 18, 2015

Dear Shaunti:

My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or three days to figure out how to create a new type of bookcase I want for the kids’ bedroom. But when I offer an opinion or suggest a solution, he goes ballistic. Why is he so sensitive? I’m just trying to help and he acts like I’m trying to stick a pin in his eye. Am I supposed to just shut up and quit offering my input when I think there’s a better way to do something? What happened to being equal partners?

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Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 3, 2015

Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my inquisitive, problem-solving nature.  Or at least he used to.  Lately, he has been getting more and more annoyed with it.  He shuts down so easily.…

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His Temper May Be Fiery, But Your Criticism Is Explosive Fuel

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 8, 2014

Dear Shaunti: My husband has an anger problem, and I don’t know how to handle it. We’ve always had “intense discussions,” but lately he’s been getting furious and walking away. Last night, we got into a fight on our way…

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My Eyes are Up Here: Can I Be Seen as Pretty AND Professional?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 1, 2014

Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious litigation firm. I have a law degree from a top-five school, graduated near the top of my class, am smart, experienced and able to handle…

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My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 17, 2014

Dear Shaunti,  My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to a certain extent because, honestly, in my mind, there are just right and wrong ways to do things. The house simply should be neat instead…

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How Do I Respect My Husband When He Makes So Many Mistakes?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 18, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about in your book For Women Only. How do I do that? My husband has a huge amount of pride and is unable to accept any…

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My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 9, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for my husband to know I respect him – which I do. But I come from a long line of “strong women” (as my…

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