One simple choice will make you a kinder person

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 22, 2017

Here’s the good news: If you want to be a kind person, the quickest way to get there is to build a habit of praising others regularly. Here’s the bad news: You already think you do have that habit… but…

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Why your kindness to ONE person can change the world

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 8, 2017

Picture a cup filled with hot water. Now imagine taking a tea bag, dipping it in the water quickly, and taking it back out. The water is, for the most part, unchanged, with just a wisp of caramel color trailing…

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Finally Kill the Never-Ending Cycle of the Grumpy Husband – Forever

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 3, 2017

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements on the job. But he is often grumpy and withdrawn…

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Two Things You Need to Know About Yourself

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 1, 2017

If you’re reading this, I can tell you two things about yourself. First: You think you’re a kind person. Kindness matters to you. You work at being kind, and you do not like the unkindness of others, or how harsh…

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The Hidden Truth About Venting

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 24, 2017

Your co-worker just made you so mad. Or maybe it was your husband who said something insensitive this morning. Or your teenager who rolled her eyes when you asked her to empty the dishwasher. Again. You feel like a pot…

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6 Reasons Sarcasm Kills Relationships

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 14, 2017

There are two types of people in the world: those with the quick zinger and the envious wannabes. I’ve always wished I was more quick-witted at pulling out the perfect sarcastic remark when joking with my friends. But I don’t…

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3 Ways to Rebuild Family Bridges Over the Holidays

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 24, 2016

You know those college-football bumper magnets that say “A house divided?” Perhaps she supports University of Michigan, he’s a rabid Michigan State guy. Maybe it’s Alabama vs. Auburn.  Or USC – UCLA. Regardless, the couple has to learn to get…

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The Canadian Video to America That Made Me Cry – And What We Can Learn From It

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 19, 2016

Have you heard the joke: How does someone from Canada cheat on a test?  They secretly write on the palm of their hand, “You can do it!” Our neighbors to the north are an unusually open, honest, nice, kind bunch.…

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Sticks and Stones: Your Words Can Build (or Demolish) Your Husband’s Security

By Shaunti Feldhahn on July 7, 2014

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married only three months – and I’ll be lucky to see four since apparently I hurt him really badly last weekend without meaning to. See, we were at a wedding and even…

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