My Lady Is A Loose Cannon

By Shaunti Feldhahn on July 20, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I used to think I was crazy, but these days I feel like I’m the stable one in our house.  I recently read a news report where this guy called 911 because his wife refused to speak to…

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Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 11, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s really about a man feeling desired by his wife, what can I do to get engaged and interested instead of just “accommodating” him? I know that just “going along with it” would be pretty depressing for him. But to be honest, I don’t feel that same type of desire for him, that he apparently feels for me. Don’t get me wrong; I enjoy it when we’re together. I just don’t have this overwhelming need to “go at it” the same way he does. Should I just pray for God to give me that desire? Or what?

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Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2015

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In an attempt to make things right, I tried to get intimate–and she got furious! We’ve only been married a few years, and honestly we don’t…

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Conquer the Calendar Without Crushing Your Kids

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 5, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My 8th grade son is getting involved in extra-curricular activities for the first time, finding out what he likes and making friends in a way he hasn’t before. Which is all great, but every new dodgeball clinic, basketball…

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The Pressure Behind Your Pricetags: Understanding Your Husband’s Need to Provide

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 22, 2014

Dear Shaunti, My husband makes a good income, and I always stick to our budget, but my husband is always nervous about my spending, and it makes me nuts.  He’s not a control freak in any other area except this.…

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The Science of Seduction: Create Chemistry by Getting Physical

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 15, 2014

Dear Shaunti, My wife is constantly nagging me about taking care of myself, but I feel like I’m doing a good enough job where that is concerned. I work out sometimes, and try to eat healthy when I can, although…

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My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 17, 2014

Dear Shaunti,  My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to a certain extent because, honestly, in my mind, there are just right and wrong ways to do things. The house simply should be neat instead…

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Why won’t my wife trust me?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 3, 2014

Dear Shaunti, You say that women have worries that pop up in their minds, almost like open windows on a computer. I see that in my wife every day – but to me, it looks like she just doesn’t trust…

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First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then comes…Love: Choosing Sustained Marital Happiness

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 15, 2014

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I have been married for five years, and I’ve had back surgery more pleasant than my marriage is right now. We know most marriages aren’t great, but thought we would be the exception to the…

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Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 11, 2014

Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but they’ve become a source of tension. For meetings at work, my wife is spot on time. But for our dates, she takes SO LONG getting…

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