How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 4, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do guys need to have sex? I just don’t think about sex much; I guess it isn’t a need for me. But my husband says he thinks about it all the time, and he gets crabby that I’m often too tired. Even though I can go weeks or months and not miss it, since he can’t, I try to do the right thing. But oddly, even though he says he’s “deprived”, when I tell him “okay” that just makes him mad. He says he wants me to want it like he does. I feel like I can’t win. But if I knew how often a man needs sex I could plan on that, and hopefully that would help.

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How can I get my teen to STOP relying on social media so much?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 13, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

My kids’ obsession with Instagram and other social media has gotten to ridiculous levels. My teenage daughter takes photos of her outfits before she goes to school and wears the option that got the most likes. She’s already placing far too much value on what her peers think of her, and social media is making it worse. I’m ready to throw her phone in the trash. How can I get her to stop relying on social media so much – especially for her self-identity?

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Negative wife? Here’s how to stop the cycle!

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 23, 2015

Dear Shaunti: My wife and I are making a concerted effort to improve our marriage. Although she is a wonderful woman and a great mother, it drives me crazy at how negative she’s become over 12 years together. She is…

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Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2015

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In an attempt to make things right, I tried to get intimate–and she got furious! We’ve only been married a few years, and honestly we don’t…

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Face Conflict Head On Even When You Want to Peace-Out

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 23, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I never used to fight, but there have been a lot of fights, or almost-fights, the last few months. My husband is on the verge of losing his job in a restructuring, and we have…

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Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 3, 2015

Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my inquisitive, problem-solving nature.  Or at least he used to.  Lately, he has been getting more and more annoyed with it.  He shuts down so easily.…

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Drama-Free Guarantee: Talking to Teenage Boys

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 26, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My oldest son is having a tough first year of high school – leaving his old friends, trying to make new ones, and dealing with some unfair teachers. I’m thankful that at least he’s talking to us about…

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The Pressure Behind Your Pricetags: Understanding Your Husband’s Need to Provide

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 22, 2014

Dear Shaunti, My husband makes a good income, and I always stick to our budget, but my husband is always nervous about my spending, and it makes me nuts.  He’s not a control freak in any other area except this.…

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His Temper May Be Fiery, But Your Criticism Is Explosive Fuel

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 8, 2014

Dear Shaunti: My husband has an anger problem, and I don’t know how to handle it. We’ve always had “intense discussions,” but lately he’s been getting furious and walking away. Last night, we got into a fight on our way…

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My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 17, 2014

Dear Shaunti,  My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to a certain extent because, honestly, in my mind, there are just right and wrong ways to do things. The house simply should be neat instead…

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