3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About A Man’s Brain

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 2, 2016

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve been seeing inside her head the whole movie, but instantly…

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She Values Your Time More than Your Cash

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 16, 2014

Dear Shaunti,

For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would be to rent a condo and spend a full week in a cottage at the beach. So for her birthday I surprised her with reservations for fall break. She was so excited – until she learned that I agreed to take an extra shift at work this summer to pay for it. She keeps complaining that I will miss family time while the kids are out of school. I’m busting my tail for something she wants… and she’s complaining. I have to tell my boss next week what my schedule will be, and I don’t know what to do.

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My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 9, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for my husband to know I respect him – which I do. But I come from a long line of “strong women” (as my…

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Gain Respect By Being Direct

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 31, 2014

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share what she’s thinking? Two days ago, we dropped off our youngest child at college, so my wife and I planned two days of empty-nester sightseeing…

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The Process of Processing: Give Your Man Some Space

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 27, 2014

Dear Shaunti,

I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into an argument, all he wants to do is ignore the situation and escape to the TV room. He doesn’t care that we need to talk it through. What can I do to get him to talk to me?

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Lust at First Glance? The Difference in Seeing vs. Gawking

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 24, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking at other women and even have images from the past pop-up in their minds. Does this mean that it’s OK for men to lust after…

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Let's Get Physical: Health Body, Healthy Marriage

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 17, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I am definitely not the size I was when I married my husband. But honestly, 4 kids and 25 years later, I don’t see it ever happening. The problem is that I recently overheard my brother saying something…

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Priming Your Wife for Primetime

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 13, 2014

Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic.  In other ways, we have a great relationship, but this is a big deal for me…

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Should I Hide the Victoria’s Secret Catalog from My Husband?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 5, 2014

I know my husband loves me and thinks I’m attractive. So I’m confused and a little hurt why he asked me recently to put my Victoria’s Secret catalog out of sight. I’ve gotten these in the mail for years and I never once thought I needed to “hide” them from my own husband! Does this mean he’s attracted to other women?

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