My ADD son is checking out in school

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 9, 2015

  Dear Shaunti, My 6th-grade son is discouraged in school and I’m worried he’s starting to check out.  He tries hard, but he has some learning issues (like ADD) that create real academic challenges.  Where his sisters get A’s with…

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Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 2, 2015

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best of your spouse’s intentions.  But all that does is give your spouse license to hurt you again and again without consequences.  Who cares what their…

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Guys wonder: do compliments really matter? Three things your wife is secretly thinking:

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 29, 2015

“Am I beautiful?”  You may think your wife is beautiful, adorable, sexy, and you love to look at her.  And yet…. she probably sees all her flaws instead.  She has deep doubts about whether she is beautiful at all.  Little girls…

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Diamond Disappointment: If the ring is cheap, does it mean his feelings are too?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 27, 2015

The day my boyfriend asked me to marry him was one of the happiest days of my life. He went all out: perfect location, meaningful words, and down on one knee with a lovely ring. At the time, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. But now, just a few months before the wedding, my ring has become a source of stress. I’d honestly like something bigger, with a bit more style. My fiancé says we don’t have that kind of money, but he doesn’t seem to have a problem buying fancy accessories for his car. I’m worried that his lack of “splurging” on my ring means that he just doesn’t prioritize what matters to me – which means he doesn’t prioritize me. What do I do with that? I’m willing to forego eating out or whatever we need to do to upgrade my ring, but he’s not budging on the budget.

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Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 21, 2015

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex?…

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When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 19, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over.  My husband and I were on the same page politically until a few months ago, but are now very divided.  I literally can’t skim past a cable news channel…

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Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 13, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading Through a Man’s Eyes. I thought I’d be feeling better about my husband working so hard to avert his eyes when he sees another attractive…

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Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 7, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately.  We both work a lot and have two children busy with extracurricular activities, so we spend a good…

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Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 22, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care for my husband, but for the most part, I avoid him. I find him difficult to be around. I really don’t enjoy his company. I…

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My Kids Are Freaked Out About the Shemitah

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 14, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

Recently my husband and I read Jonathan Cahn’s book The Harbinger, so we’re attuned to the signals of a “shaking” coming in our country. Financial markets are tanking as we near the Shemitah, just as Cahn warned might happen. [Editorial note: the current 7-year Shemitah cycle, based on the ancient Hebrew calendar, ended Sunday September 13, 2015. The Dow Jones average has dropped more than 10% since its peak 4 months ago.] We’re worried about another big terrorist attack, or God using other means to judge the nation. We discovered quite a few other Christian friends were looking at this, too, so we’ve been talking about this a lot. But I was getting ready to go on a business trip this week and my 10 and 14-year-old daughters got hysterical and asked me not to get on the plane “in case it blows up.” I didn’t realize they had been paying so much attention and absorbing everything we were talking about. How can I calm their fears and yet not downplay that we are worried that something big might happen?

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