Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 21, 2015

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex?…

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When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 19, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over.  My husband and I were on the same page politically until a few months ago, but are now very divided.  I literally can’t skim past a cable news channel…

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Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 13, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading Through a Man’s Eyes. I thought I’d be feeling better about my husband working so hard to avert his eyes when he sees another attractive…

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Realistic Tips for Reeling Him Back In

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 7, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 22 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately.  We both work a lot and have two children busy with extracurricular activities, so we spend a good…

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Time to Hang up the Hurt, Hang out Together, and Hang On

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 22, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I still care for my husband, but for the most part, I avoid him. I find him difficult to be around. I really don’t enjoy his company. I…

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My Kids Are Freaked Out About the Shemitah

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 14, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

Recently my husband and I read Jonathan Cahn’s book The Harbinger, so we’re attuned to the signals of a “shaking” coming in our country. Financial markets are tanking as we near the Shemitah, just as Cahn warned might happen. [Editorial note: the current 7-year Shemitah cycle, based on the ancient Hebrew calendar, ended Sunday September 13, 2015. The Dow Jones average has dropped more than 10% since its peak 4 months ago.] We’re worried about another big terrorist attack, or God using other means to judge the nation. We discovered quite a few other Christian friends were looking at this, too, so we’ve been talking about this a lot. But I was getting ready to go on a business trip this week and my 10 and 14-year-old daughters got hysterical and asked me not to get on the plane “in case it blows up.” I didn’t realize they had been paying so much attention and absorbing everything we were talking about. How can I calm their fears and yet not downplay that we are worried that something big might happen?

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Play It Subtle When Talking With Teens

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 8, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

I was driving my 16-year-old daughter home from volleyball practice recently when she brought up a funny comment made by one of the guys she knows at school. Then she said, “Anna said he told her he was going to ask me to Homecoming.” I was thrilled she was sharing something like that, since she’s been pretty tight-lipped the last year. And also thrilled for her, since she’s never been asked to a school dance before, and I know it would mean a lot to her. So I smiled at her and said “Wow, that is fantastic, honey!” I promise that’s all I said. But you would have thought I had shot off fireworks or something, because my daughter got this horrified look on her face and said, “I knew you’d freak out if I told you. That’s why I don’t tell you anything!” But I did not overreact, and I’m a little irritated that she says this is why she can’t talk to me. What do I do?

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Actions Don’t Always Speak Louder than Words: How Should You Affirm Your Wife?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 31, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water.  My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know. (I’m sure she’d tell you otherwise, but it’s true.)  But I just don’t talk a lot, and it is hard for me to remember…

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Why is it that MEN always seem to be the ones who look at porn and cheat?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 24, 2015

Why is it always men who look at porn, hide things, and cheat?  I’m a single woman, and I can’t help but notice that in the news last week, the one thing Josh Duggar and most of the Ashley Madison cheaters have in common is that they are all men.   Supposedly, even the few women on the hacked Ashley Madison site were fake profiles, just to reel in all those men out there who want to cheat.  It is crazy.  It makes me think women are just inherently more trustworthy.  Part of me still wants to meet someone, but how can I ever trust any guy again?

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I’m Unhealthy and My Wife is Unhappy

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 17, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

Things haven’t been great between me and my wife the past few months. I’m not happy at work, we’re behind on our bills, and I’ve been pretty down. I’ve gained thirty pounds in the last year from eating a lot of junk and watching a lot of TV, which is not good because I’m a diabetic. I’ve wound up in the emergency room a couple times because of high blood sugar. My wife says she’s fed up and if I don’t start taking my health seriously and start looking for a job that makes me “less miserable” (her words, not mine), she is going to move in with her parents. I don’t know how I’d make it without her – she’s truly my better half and best friend. I just feel so paralyzed. What do I do?

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