Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 25, 2016

Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses she researched recognize when their expectations are pure fantasy and stop themselves from thinking things like, “If he/she really love me, he/she would …” Instead they shift to being grateful for the ways their pluses are uniquely wired, and the ways they can and do meet their needs well.

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Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 21, 2016

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he…

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POLL and RESULTS: What do you think about Kardashian’s nude selfie?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2016

Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it comes to women’s bodies. Then, I asked you what YOU thought.

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A sincere plea from someone who doesn’t want to see Kardashian’s nude selfie but isn’t a "slut shamer"

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2016

In today’s culture, you are either a “slut shamer” or “celebrating a woman’s body” through nude selfies. Isn’t there middle ground?

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3 Lies You Can’t Let Your Son Believe About Himself

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 15, 2016

As both a social researcher who has interviewed and surveyed thousands of boys and a mom of a son, I’ve seen three common – and very harmful –things boys tend to believe about themselves.   Mom and Dad, keep an eye…

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In Honor of My Mother-in-Law (1926 – 2016): Three Reasons They Had 65 Wonderful Years of Marriage

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 7, 2016

My sweet mother-in-law went to be with Jesus last night. We are grieving, but we are also so grateful for how Roberta Feldhahn graced this earth for 90 years. We are also praying for Jeff’s sweet dad, who is so…

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Secret #5 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Boss Your Feelings

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 4, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #5 to…

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3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About A Man’s Brain

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 2, 2016

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve been seeing inside her head the whole movie, but instantly…

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Why not take the test drive? – Part 2 (More on cohabitation, getting engaged, and getting committed)

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 25, 2016

Last week, I posted an article, “Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation,” on the unseen dangers of cohabitation before marriage. (As a recap: research shows that couples who live together without being engaged have a greater chance…

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Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 15, 2016

I’m a pastor who works with young couples.  As you know, most people live together before they get married and I can’t figure out how to talk to them about it.  I know from scripture that it’s a bad idea, but couples always ask “But why?”  To them, it just seems logical to try out a live-in relationship before committing to it for life.  The classic argument is, “If you wouldn’t buy a car without test-driving it, why on earth would you not test-drive a marriage – which is far more important?”  I know from experience with counseling many couples that it is a bad idea, but I need more than just my experience.  I’m a bit of a policy wonk, but I simply don’t have time to sift through the information out there to figure out what’s real and helpful. Is there any solid research on this?

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