Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

By Shaunti Feldhahn on September 23, 2016

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he…

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Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 18, 2016

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy!  After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little…

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Secret #10 of Highly Happy Marriages: Look Higher

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 22, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #10 to…

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Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 25, 2016

Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses she researched recognize when their expectations are pure fantasy and stop themselves from thinking things like, “If he/she really love me, he/she would …” Instead they shift to being grateful for the ways their pluses are uniquely wired, and the ways they can and do meet their needs well.

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POLL and RESULTS: What do you think about Kardashian’s nude selfie?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2016

Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it comes to women’s bodies. Then, I asked you what YOU thought.

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Secret #2 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Believe the Best

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 29, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. 97% of all spouses…

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Want a Truly Happy Holiday? Four Ways You Should “Let It Go”

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 21, 2015

Embed from Getty Images   “Let It Go” is more than a Frozen anthem for the pre-school set.  It’s also a hard-core success strategy for giving yourself – and those around you — a truly happy holiday!  I saw the…

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3 things every boy needs from his mom

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 16, 2015

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down.…

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How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 18, 2015

Dear Shaunti:

My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or three days to figure out how to create a new type of bookcase I want for the kids’ bedroom. But when I offer an opinion or suggest a solution, he goes ballistic. Why is he so sensitive? I’m just trying to help and he acts like I’m trying to stick a pin in his eye. Am I supposed to just shut up and quit offering my input when I think there’s a better way to do something? What happened to being equal partners?

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If You Don’t Want Your Colleagues to See You as "Mommy," Stop Airing Your Dirty Laundry

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 9, 2015

Dear Shaunti, I am back in the workforce after ten years as a stay-at-home mom, and I know my experience juggling kids has prepared me well for my new project manager job. After all, before 7 am each morning alone,…

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