Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little…
Secret #10 of Highly Happy Marriages: Look Higher
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #10 to…
Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies
Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses she researched recognize when their expectations are pure fantasy and stop themselves from thinking things like, “If he/she really love me, he/she would …” Instead they shift to being grateful for the ways their pluses are uniquely wired, and the ways they can and do meet their needs well.
POLL and RESULTS: What do you think about Kardashian’s nude selfie?
Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it comes to women’s bodies. Then, I asked you what YOU thought.
Secret #2 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Believe the Best
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. 97% of all spouses…
Want a Truly Happy Holiday? Four Ways You Should “Let It Go”
Embed from Getty Images “Let It Go” is more than a Frozen anthem for the pre-school set. It’s also a hard-core success strategy for giving yourself – and those around you — a truly happy holiday! I saw the…
3 things every boy needs from his mom
In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down.…
How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?
My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or three days to figure out how to create a new type of bookcase I want for the kids’ bedroom. But when I offer an opinion or suggest a solution, he goes ballistic. Why is he so sensitive? I’m just trying to help and he acts like I’m trying to stick a pin in his eye. Am I supposed to just shut up and quit offering my input when I think there’s a better way to do something? What happened to being equal partners?
If You Don’t Want Your Colleagues to See You as "Mommy," Stop Airing Your Dirty Laundry
Dear Shaunti, I am back in the workforce after ten years as a stay-at-home mom, and I know my experience juggling kids has prepared me well for my new project manager job. After all, before 7 am each morning alone,…
Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make
Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my inquisitive, problem-solving nature. Or at least he used to. Lately, he has been getting more and more annoyed with it. He shuts down so easily.…