2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 29, 2016

“How was school?” (Shrug.)  “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” If this sounds familiar, join the club!   Not only do I have two teenagers, but I’ve interviewed and surveyed about 3,000 of them for For Parents Only and other books,…

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3 Lies You Can’t Let Your Son Believe About Himself

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 15, 2016

As both a social researcher who has interviewed and surveyed thousands of boys and a mom of a son, I’ve seen three common – and very harmful –things boys tend to believe about themselves.   Mom and Dad, keep an eye…

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Dads: Four Phrases a Daughter Needs to Hear From You

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 12, 2016

Dads, we know you love your daughter.  And you know you love your daughter.  But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it.  In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that…

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Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 7, 2016

Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with…

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When State Says Pot is OK, How Do I Convince My Child It Isn’t?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 27, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

We live in Colorado, where pot is now visible on every corner. For my teenagers, seeing someone smoking pot is as now as commonplace as seeing someone smoking cigarettes; it’s viewed as a harmless pastime. But it isn’t harmless, and I don’t want my kids to be enticed by drugs. My husband and I have even considered moving to another state. How am I supposed to keep my kids from becoming pot-heads when they are surrounded by them?

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Drama-Free Guarantee: Talking to Teenage Boys

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 26, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My oldest son is having a tough first year of high school – leaving his old friends, trying to make new ones, and dealing with some unfair teachers. I’m thankful that at least he’s talking to us about…

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Conquer the Calendar Without Crushing Your Kids

By Shaunti Feldhahn on January 5, 2015

Dear Shaunti, My 8th grade son is getting involved in extra-curricular activities for the first time, finding out what he likes and making friends in a way he hasn’t before. Which is all great, but every new dodgeball clinic, basketball…

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And the Oscar Goes To…My Teen Drama Queen

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 7, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I love my teenage daughter but how do I get her to stop being such a drama queen? Everything is a big tear-fest. She begged to play volleyball – but now when she doesn’t want to go to…

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Your Teen Is Watching Even If She Doesn’t Seem to Be Listening

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 12, 2014

Dear Shaunti, My daughter is 15 years old and I am worried that she is starting to push away not just from her dad and me but also from some of the beliefs we hold dear. What should we do?…

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How Do I Get My Teen to Comply Without Complaining?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 5, 2014

Dear Shaunti, I am constantly butting heads with my 14 year-old daughter. Yesterday, she asked if she could go to a concert with a group of kids that I don’t know. With her friend’s 16 year-old brother as the driver!…

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