Kiss and Make Up? Not So Fast.

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 4, 2017

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready to cool off and mend the relationship. What better way to make up than to spend a little intimate time together, right? Just one little…

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Sex and Men’s True Hidden Desire

By Shaunti Feldhahn on July 6, 2017

Wives, does your husband want sex…again? It’s not just a physical need — it’s also about emotions. Here are three things he’s not saying out loud when he comes to you for sex: Pages: 1 2 3 4

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Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 24, 2016

Recently, someone asked what I think about the “Married Sex During the Week” video posted on Facebook and chortled about on social media.  Have you seen it?  Some women think it’s hysterical. I haven’t found a single man who does.…

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Men, Do This to Enjoy More Sex in Your Marriage

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 13, 2016

Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes his wife would be eager more often. (Ladies, if you have the higher drive…

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3 Reasons Your Porn Use Makes Your Wife Feel Awful

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 23, 2016

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against…

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A sincere plea from someone who doesn’t want to see Kardashian’s nude selfie but isn’t a "slut shamer"

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2016

In today’s culture, you are either a “slut shamer” or “celebrating a woman’s body” through nude selfies. Isn’t there middle ground?

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For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 7, 2015

Yes, the idea is scary for many women!  But in 12 years of researching the things our husbands wish we knew but don’t know how to say, I heard the heart behind this wish – and saw five surprising reasons to…

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How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 17, 2015

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to let me see her in all her glory?  We have a decent sex life, we don’t have any real marriage problems, and I’m careful to…

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Your Husband Wants Sex? 3 Things He’s Not Saying Out Loud

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 21, 2015

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex?…

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Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 10, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got married, so everything about our sex life was new, mysterious and exciting. But now we have two teenagers and we both work full-time. When we find the time for physical intimacy, it feels very forced. Like we’re just going through the motions. And that old spark isn’t there outside the bedroom either. A friend suggested that we watch porn movies to get us back to the old excitement, but I’m really not comfortable with it – is that something we should consider? I just want us to be excited about our physical relationship again. It sounds like a cliché to ask what we can do to spice things up again, but… what can we do to spice things up again?

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