Men, DO THIS to enjoy more sex in your marriage

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 13, 2016

Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes his wife would be eager more often. (Ladies, if you have the higher drive…

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3 Reasons Your Porn Use Makes Your Wife Feel Awful

By Shaunti Feldhahn on June 23, 2016

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against…

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A sincere plea from someone who doesn’t want to see Kardashian’s nude selfie but isn’t a "slut shamer"

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2016

In today’s culture, you are either a “slut shamer” or “celebrating a woman’s body” through nude selfies. Isn’t there middle ground?

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For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

By Shaunti Feldhahn on December 7, 2015

Yes, the idea is scary for many women!  But in 12 years of researching the things our husbands wish we knew but don’t know how to say, I heard the heart behind this wish – and saw five surprising reasons to…

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How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on November 17, 2015

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to let me see her in all her glory?  We have a decent sex life, we don’t have any real marriage problems, and I’m careful to…

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Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

By Shaunti Feldhahn on October 21, 2015

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex?…

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Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 10, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got married, so everything about our sex life was new, mysterious and exciting. But now we have two teenagers and we both work full-time. When we find the time for physical intimacy, it feels very forced. Like we’re just going through the motions. And that old spark isn’t there outside the bedroom either. A friend suggested that we watch porn movies to get us back to the old excitement, but I’m really not comfortable with it – is that something we should consider? I just want us to be excited about our physical relationship again. It sounds like a cliché to ask what we can do to spice things up again, but… what can we do to spice things up again?

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Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on May 11, 2015

Dear Shaunti,

Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s really about a man feeling desired by his wife, what can I do to get engaged and interested instead of just “accommodating” him? I know that just “going along with it” would be pretty depressing for him. But to be honest, I don’t feel that same type of desire for him, that he apparently feels for me. Don’t get me wrong; I enjoy it when we’re together. I just don’t have this overwhelming need to “go at it” the same way he does. Should I just pray for God to give me that desire? Or what?

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Make-Up Sex: Does it Exist Beyond the Locker Room?

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 16, 2015

Dear Shaunti, The other day, I got into a big fight with my wife. In an attempt to make things right, I tried to get intimate–and she got furious! We’ve only been married a few years, and honestly we don’t…

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Give Him Reason to Gawk at You So He Doesn’t Gawk at Google

By Shaunti Feldhahn on August 4, 2014

Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared me. You explained how men can’t not notice a woman with a good figure, but that many men try to look away so they don’t…

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