Secret #8 of Highly Happy Marriages: Hang Out

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 8, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #8 to…

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4 Ways To Keep Your Temper When You Want to Blow

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 5, 2016

While doing some research for my next book, I realized something important: when we are angry, most of us handle it wrong!   Here are four ways to keep ourselves from (forgive the Marvel reference) turning into a big green…

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Secret #7 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Sign Language to Reconnect

By Shaunti Feldhahn on April 1, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #7 to…

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Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase.

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 31, 2016

Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled up to me at one of our recent marriage conferences, and was clearly trying to ask a question before his wife noticed.  “So I say…

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Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 21, 2016

Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he…

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In Honor of My Mother-in-Law (1926 – 2016): Three Reasons They Had 65 Wonderful Years of Marriage

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 7, 2016

My sweet mother-in-law went to be with Jesus last night. We are grieving, but we are also so grateful for how Roberta Feldhahn graced this earth for 90 years. We are also praying for Jeff’s sweet dad, who is so…

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Secret #5 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Boss Your Feelings

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 4, 2016

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #5 to…

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3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About A Man’s Brain

By Shaunti Feldhahn on March 2, 2016

The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve been seeing inside her head the whole movie, but instantly…

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Why not take the test drive? – Part 2 (More on cohabitation, getting engaged, and getting committed)

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 25, 2016

Last week, I posted an article, “Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation,” on the unseen dangers of cohabitation before marriage. (As a recap: research shows that couples who live together without being engaged have a greater chance…

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Why not take the test drive? The case against cohabitation

By Shaunti Feldhahn on February 15, 2016

I’m a pastor who works with young couples.  As you know, most people live together before they get married and I can’t figure out how to talk to them about it.  I know from scripture that it’s a bad idea, but couples always ask “But why?”  To them, it just seems logical to try out a live-in relationship before committing to it for life.  The classic argument is, “If you wouldn’t buy a car without test-driving it, why on earth would you not test-drive a marriage – which is far more important?”  I know from experience with counseling many couples that it is a bad idea, but I need more than just my experience.  I’m a bit of a policy wonk, but I simply don’t have time to sift through the information out there to figure out what’s real and helpful. Is there any solid research on this?

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