Ladies, have you been wishing your husband were more Prince Charming and a little less Homer Simpson lately? Been daydreaming that someday he would plan a special evening for just the two of you? But then is your next thought, “He doesn’t even care”?
Well, you might be surprised to learn that he does care -and he deeply wants to please you. During my research for For Women Only, I asked men if they desired romance in their relationship for themselves and I was shocked that 84% said yes!
Did you hear that?
8 out of every 10 men desire romance, just as much as we do. So, while your man might not seem romantic in the way you would like, he still wants romance!
What’s holding him back? Maybe he’s trying but you don’t interpret his attempts as romantic. Men and women sometimes define romance differently, so the signals between sender and receiver can get crossed.
Or—even more likely—maybe he’s concerned that he won’t please you. My research shows that a huge majority of men think they can put together a romantic event, but almost half aren’t confident that you’ll like it. And also for the huge majority of men, the prospect of failure is their most painful feeling. In other words, your man is probably worried that if he tries something, he’ll see signals that he didn’t get it right… and he knows that will hurt.
So what can you do to encourage your reluctant Romeo? Here are four ways to give him inspiration, encouragement, and confidence to up his romantic game: