Marriage is a beautiful, lifelong partnership that is rooted in deep commitment, love and respect for one another. Yet, there are many spouses who feel uninvited in their own home by their own spouse. Sometimes, both spouses do, and so, they carry on and do their best to stay away as much as possible–avoiding the big elephant in the room. Sound familiar?
If so, you are not alone. If we aren’t intentional about our words, actions, and reactions, it’s easy to fall into this negative dynamic.
Maybe you are a stay-at-home mom who works very hard all day and feels up to your eyeballs in stickiness. You crave adult conversation like it’s some kind of fine chocolate or coffee. You dream about some alone time with your husband, but this dream fizzles with each passing, chaotic day. And, when he gets home from work–exhausted–you don’t have anything left to give. No hug. No kiss. No, “How was your day, Honey?” All you can muster up is, “Good. You’re home. Can you feed the baby while I try and figure out what the other kids are getting into?”
I get it. Sometimes the stress of raising kids can suck the sexy right out of us until we’re so exhausted, frustrated, and depleted that we don’t feel like being cordial or loving or inviting to our husband anymore. We’re just trying to survive, and we just don’t have the stamina to muster up a warm and friendly, “Hello.” And, if we’re honest with ourselves, we resent the fact that he gets some time to gather a coherent thought and put his efforts towards something with the potential for measurable success. You assume that he understands your reasons for being coy–or at least you feel like he “should.”
Can any of you sweet mamas out there relate?
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